My mother took care of her family. She got up at 4 o clock in the morning and cooked food for us. She made sure we had clean clothes. She supported us in our academic endeavours. She made huge sacrifices so that we would have the things that we needed. When I went to visit her in 2002, she washed my clothes for me. She cooked meals for me. And I was grateful every time she did .

And yet still she was independent. She didnt wait on my father to do anything, or any other man in her life. So  her example and going to Bishop Anstey High School for seven years, have created an independent streak in me.

Right now I do all things at home for myself. I try to do as much as possible without asking for assistance. And I think I am doing a pretty good job.

But there is a part of me that wants to take care of my family. I want to make sure that my husband is well fed and happy, that he is supported by me in any endeavours that he may want to undertake, that he has someone to listen to him when he wants to talk about something that happened during the day.

I remember a thread was put up on TS asking women to choose between being their man's 'maid' ie cleaning, cooking, washing, making sure his needs are met, and being a f***er, ie making sure that his sexual needs are met. I was probably one of the few women to choose 'maid' ( I had a problem with that word, but that's the word used in the thread). The majority of the women chose f***er.

While it is nice to see my bf satisfied after a good session (heh heh heh), I'd prefer to see him express satisfaction over a meal that I have made or assisting him in getting ready for an assignment by ironing his shirt while he showers.

I think in the long run this is what truly matters to a man, and if I am lying or completely wrong, drop a comment in the flooblebox and let me know.

 
SUPPORTIVE WIFE vs SEX GODDESS- as a man, which do you prefer? As a woman, which do you want to be?